Here Is A Great Reason I Keep My Neighbors At Bay

Nosey Neighbor
Nosey Neighbor

I recently wrote a post (see Mortality Check) about a neighbor of mine who I did not know, or really take the time know, that died. In it I mentioned that I tend to keep my neighbors just on a “Hi” relationship. I don't want to get to know them or they me. It may sound anti social, but I always believe that your friends should not be living next door. All too often, for some reason, when property lines touch, conflicts erupt within friendships. Thankfully we live in a neighborhood where the houses are very well spaced apart.

It turns out that there was a good reason for keeping this particular neighbor at bay. His death was a result of a drug overdose, and his best friend who lives in the next town, was his dealer, and was arrested a few days after this neighbor's death. No, I did't get this gossip from a neighbor, but from the news.

I would see the best friend's car over there frequently when I drove by my neighbor's house, and I have to wonder just what sort of dealings were going on in there. I am sure the neighborhood is reeling from this revelation, as I live in horse farm country, and everybody knows everyone else (except me).

I recently went to the plant store/ coffee shop / cafe in the neighborhood and the person at the counter asked if I was new to the neighborhood. I had to laugh and tell them that I have been living here for the past 12 years. So yes, I am that guy in the neighborhood whose car everybody will see going by, but no one knows who he is.

Cue the “Twilight Zone” music.

What do you think? Do you agree that neighbors should not be friends, or do you think that the need to be friends? That old “Keep your enemies close” thing?


2 Comments Add yours

  1. Twyla says:

    Maybe and maybe not , I’m not sure after reading your post . I don’t live close to any of my daughters , and when we go out of town one of the neighbors keeps an eye on our house ….I’m not real close to them, and most of them know I have health problems and spend a lot of time in the hospital. …They bring me flowers and food from their garden….so that’s nice .
    I was sitting in my car looking for keys and and listnings to the radio , when a neighbor came over to make sure I was ok……..Then I have a neighbor I have only spoken to ….maybe two times in twenty-four years . They never speak to anyone ,and they have lived in neighborhood for forty some years ( per another neighbor ) , they have children that come and go all the time.
    Never had any problems with neighbors and not knowing the one neighbor doesn’t brother me…..I guess it’s better to keep them at arms length .

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Basil Rene says:

      I am not saying to be totally unfriendly. I am friendly but not friends if that makes sense.


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