Dealing With … People

IMG_5041In general, I dislike crowds of people. I prefer to take my vacation after summer when kids are back in school and vacation spots are quiet. I just spent some time in a beach town that is considered the playground for the ultra wealthy.

I am very sensitive to rude, discourteous, ill mannered and obnoxious people and because I can’t stand those qualities, they very often raise their ugly head in my presence. Not always necessarily to me directly, but in my immediate vicinity.

I am not saying that because people are mega wealthy, they are automatically rude. On the contrary, I deal regularly with mega wealthy people, and they are generally the kindest, most courteous people I know.

A lot of people with newly acquired money believe that they need to hide the fact that were not always wealthy and they need to distance themselves from the regular folk as much as possible. They believe that the only way to distance themselves from their past is to smash down any connection to it.

Then there are those that TRY to look mega wealthy and unfortunately they believe that in order to “look” wealthy, you need to be superior to everyone else and speak to and treat everyone else like shit. So they go into the groceries, restaurants and other stores with an air of “I am better than you” in an effort to look rich. People with inferiority complexes need to elevate themselves by belittling and making those around them feel inferior.

What the pretenders don’t realize is that the mega wealthy don’t really go to the super market. They have people that they hire to do that for them. In any case, these idiot pseudo bourgeoise tend to be very rude and obnoxious to those serving them and it aggravates the hell out of me. The problem was that in this town, there was a concentration of “outsiders” who wanted to look and “behave” rich, and they were every where I went.

My wife recently told me that if you can’t change a situation then change the way you approach that situation and so I decided to do exactly that. The realistically only way to stop being annoyed in situations where I am witnessing rude and obnoxious behavior, other than completely staying away from people, is to tune it out.

I recently watched a series on Netflix called “Atypical” about a boy living with autism. He has a hard time dealing with noise in public places so he wears a pair of noise cancelling head phones to tune out the world. I thought that was an awesome idea so I decided to try it myself when I went to the grocery store, which I did almost every day that I was there.

I wore my Air Pods and it worked like a charm. I played my music and the words coming out of the mouths of idiots in the grocery were just garbled and muffled noises. I was in heaven.

Now I have to figure out how to deal with the same idiots walking and biking in the middle of the road and also not knowing how to drive.

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8 Comments Add yours

  1. Laureen says:

    I fancy the dog;) Thanks for following:)

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  2. When i was a teacher of the multiply handicapped, before i retired, i had some students with autism. If the noise level in the classroom would get too high, some would go berserk. Not all of us can cope with oncoming stimuli as easily as most do.

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    1. Basil Rene says:

      Probably irritation by idiots makes me on the spectrum? 🤔

      Liked by 1 person

      1. There sure are enough idiots out there to fulfill that end! 🙂

        Liked by 1 person

  3. Maryam Aamer says:

    Yeah. One of my teacher always does that. Showing off her clothes that i bought them in this much dollars. I know about it.

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    1. Basil Rene says:

      Thanks for dropping by!


  4. Susan says:

    I’d like to wear headphones / buds at work and have like a switch so I can hear only patients and none of my coworkers…that’s how I’ve been feeling lately. Venting . Ok. Done now.

    And, since hearing Research sociologist Brene Brown state, on a TED talk, that she in general ” doesn’t like people, doesn’t like hanging around people much…” I am so claiming my truth that I need few in my life and, yep, on my nurses salary, for 6 months, I had a meal plan delivery sent to my home !

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Basil Rene says:

      I so hear you! And it seems people are more annoying now than ever before.


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