I am one those people that remembers everybody’s birthday and any significant date in their life not because I have the memory of a savant but because I have the memory of my smartphone.
I am one of those people that will check in on everybody to see how they are doing, making sure everyone is ok. I do this not for attention but because I do genuinely care about how people I know and like are doing in general.
I know people have busy lives blah, blah, blah, but more and more I realize that it is always me that will instigate the communication to the point where I think it has become expected that I do and others become complacent.
If I don’t check in with some people they will text after a while and not say “Hey, how are you doing” but rather “Hey, I haven’t heard from you in a while. You ok?”
The later to me is not a genuine concern about my well being but an ego driven action because I did not check in on them. They not checking in on me personally but are seeing why I did not check in on them.
We have a friend that basically never checks in with us. I know that they have a difficult husband that has depression and is a real pain in the ass and they have a teenage daughter but my thing is no matter how busy you are in life, you must be able to find ten seconds in your life to type the words “Hi. Hope you guys are doing ok!” on a text and send it. Then again, if the only thing on your mind is yourself, why would anyone else come cross your thoughts.
Today is that friend’s birthday and I told my wife that I wasn’t going to bother to send her a birthday text because I am starting to be fed up with people to be honest.
She gave the following to me to read. Enough said. I sent the birthday text. I have an amazing, beautiful wife and she keeps my head above water.
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