The Weekend Revisit Of “Making It Through On Love”

I am a very, very blessed man, and I know it. I get a few emails in response to “My Story” where I give a brief synopsis of my journey with sarcoidosis and heart failure, and I get at least one email a week commenting on how “hard” my experience has been, or asking for…

They’re Going To Judge You Anyway

I have a friend who is very wealthy and somewhat lives in a bubble where he almost believes that everyone has great disposal wealth and can purchase anything at a moment’s notice. On the other side I have another friend that is not wealthy and seems to struggle. My phone has been giving trouble for…

Day 40 Of My Mantra Meditation “Challenge” Complete. 

I am practicing meditation for a few years now but mostly guided meditations and not everyday. A lot of the time I would fall asleep during it.  Today I finished a “test” (I prefer test over challenge) of doing a mantra meditation for forty days straight and I have not missed a day.  I will…

When It Rains, It Storms

I posted last time that my friend was going in for testing and they discovered that he has lung cancer. He is not in a really good place, but that is another story. Last week I got a call that my mother was having trouble breathing and that she was going to the nursing home…

Knowing When To Support Quietly

“I’m having surgery on Monday” were the words that came up on my iPhone screen two weeks ago from a longtime friend. I’m not going into the details of the conversation, but it turns out that he has early stage lung cancer. He hasn’t gotten an exact diagnosis as yet, but he isn’t handling it…

Wise Words Wednesday : Wayne Dyer #2

Kindness, Always Kindness Originally Posted on MAY 11, 2012 If you find yourself in a confrontation of any kind with anyone, be it a family member or a stranger, before reacting ask yourself, “Is what I am about to say motivated by my need to be right, or my desire to be kind?” Then pick…

New Rx Can Help With Stress And Other Ailments

I came across this infomercial for the best remedy for stress and a lot of other ailments. Please take a minute to look at it. I have used this Rx for many a year now, and I know it has helped me bounce back from being a few years away from being on a heart…

25 Years Of Wedded Bliss

Christmas Eve will mark my wife and my 25th wedding anniversary. This past weekend marked the 34th anniversary of the day we met when she was just sixteen to my very much older nineteen. We usually go out on Christmas Eve night for a really nice dinner, but this year, since it is such a…

Snapshots Of My Life: Dealing With Nosey People

I have no water at my home for the past three days, and it’s not getting fixed until today. Long story. In any case, we have water stored away for emergencies such as this, but we were running out, so yesterday I went to the supermarket to buy water for bathing etc. I had two…

Family Politics And Being Able To Let Go

My eldest brother and I never had a close relationship. We are seven years apart and always fought through my childhood. In my teens and twenties, we tolerated each other, and then now we barely communicate. Some years ago, he and his wife became part of a “born again” church, and he wrote to me…

There Is Such A Thing As Too Much Support

One of the biggest complaints of people with chronic illness and chronic pain is that they don't get enough support from family and friends. I have always been an independent person, and never really needed support. My wife is a huge support to me and I don't need it from anyone else. A lot of…

Here Is A Great Reason I Keep My Neighbors At Bay

I recently wrote a post (see Mortality Check) about a neighbor of mine who I did not know, or really take the time know, that died. In it I mentioned that I tend to keep my neighbors just on a “Hi” relationship. I don't want to get to know them or they me. It may…

It’s Time To Let Go

Why stress over someone that won't even check to see if you are alright? Sometimes you just need to distance yourself from people. Nobody is ever “too busy”. If they care, they’ll notice. If they don’t, you know where you stand with them. If they really care, they will make the time. Very often I…

Happy Valentine’s Day?

Valentine's Day. A day of so many emotions for so many people. There are those young ladies, and men, that are hoping, expecting, yearning for that elusive proposal over a candle lit dinner at a dimly lit, expensive restaurant tonight. There are those men, and women that are stressed out because they are going to…

Sharing My World 2015 – Week #3

Here is my weekly contribution to Cee's Photography challenge, Share Your World Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? Olivia Newton John. First off, I have been a fan of her music since I was 9 years old, long before she got famous in Grease. I…

Choosing Life’s Battles

Back in my twenties, when I was engaged to my wife, someone bumped into and cut her off in a line in a store in the Flatbush section of Brooklyn. Why the hell we were there has left my memory, but I remember that the guy was a real bad ass looking dude, and I…

Share Your World 2015 – Week #2

Here we are with week two of Cee's Photography Share Your World Questions. For more info, check out Cee's blog here. Are you a hugger or a non-hugger? I am a big time hugger, but only if the other person is open to it. I always crack up (inside) when I hug a non hugger…

Flashback Friday : A Special Lunch Date

Originally Posted February 23, 2011 I felt really well physically and emotionally today. I always love it when I go to a doctor and they are happy with my condition. I took the pups out for a long walk around the property when I got back. It was beautiful, no clouds, a blanket of white…

Don’t Stress To Impress

As I watch people flying crazily through the streets with despair in their eyes, I realize that they all have forgotten the reason for the season. What began as an ancient pagan festival where people put gifts for nature under a tree in the forest was turned into cutting down the tree, dragging it indoors…

Lonliness Really Does Not Have To Exist

There is something about Christmas time that I just love. To me, it is indeed the happiest season of all. But to many other people, it is a time filled with sadness steming mostly from lonliness. I don't ever recall being lonely. I have always enjoyed my own company, and essentially, I am a loner….

Flashback Friday: For Joyce

In May 2007, the week before I started my second semester of massage school, I had a TIA or mini stroke. This started me on the road to discovery that I had a hole in my heart and eventually to the fact I have heart failure. I had a barrage of tests, MRIs, x-rays, blood…

Above Everything Else, Always Listen To Yourself

Life with a chronic illness is sometimes confusing, plain and simple. You have all these voices coming at you in different directions telling you many different things. If you are like me with different specialists for each condition, they all try to work together, but they all have their own separate opinions, and you don't…

Flash Back Friday – Family Unties

Originally Posted January 13, 2011 There’s a saying “You choose your friends and you are given your family”. Today is my youngest nephew’s 29th birthday, and that got me thinking about his father, my eldest brother with whom I never had a close relationship with. As a matter of fact, growing up we fought a…